When my wife and I were engaged and doing premarital counseling as an investment in the journey we were about to embark on together, we were introduced to The 5 Love Languages, a book by Gary Chapman. We still refer to the five love languages as a way to put action behind our intentions of having a thriving marriage. So, when I think about how we can measure either progress or success in marriage, I think it comes down, once again, to the actions you take as a spouse… I’ve said before that we need to look at love as a verb in marriage. If we do, then the question, “do you love your spouse” can really be translated to mean, “what are you doing to show love to your spouse?”
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