Attitude, actions and communication. When is the best time to try to improve or grow in those areas (areas that I consider some of the pillars of marriage)? When we’re working to improve or grow in marriage, parenting, or any other relationship, it’s almost always the right time from the relationship standpoint. But unless you’re ready, your attempt at personal growth within the relationship may fall flat. So, consider your readiness for growth. If you have the desire, and if your intentions are pure, now is probably as good of a time as any.