How do you actually reduce stress? It’s not about what’s worked for others. It’s about what will give you the best chance for success–and there are three things to consider in truly making your goals about you. First, think about the destination–that’s your goal. Then look at your starting point. Finally, consider your drive–what’s going to get you there? By focusing on the type of person you want to be, it allows you to focus on the bigger picture when things pop up that seemingly contradict what you’re trying to achieve.